Heal after Breaking Free from Trauma Bonds – Series, part 4
In our previous discussions, we explored the origins and signs of trauma bonds and how to break free from them. Now, let’s focus on the most crucial part—healing. Trauma bonds can feel overwhelming, but with God’s help, healing is possible. You can find out more HERE.
Healing from Trauma Bonds: Steps to Healing
- Heal after Breaking Free from Trauma Bonds – Series, part 4
- Introduction
- 1. Embracing Emotional Healing
- 2. Strengthening Your Spiritual Foundation
- 3. Setting and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
- 4. Nurturing Your Self-Worth in Christ
- 5. Seeking Community and Support
- Conclusion
- Watch the Summary Here on YouTube.
- Final Thoughts & Call to Action
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Leaving a trauma bond can bring a mix of emotions—relief, grief, anger, and confusion. Healing begins when you allow yourself to process these emotions rather than suppress them.
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Introduction
Breaking free from a trauma bond is a courageous step, but the journey to full healing is just beginning. Emotional and spiritual recovery is essential to rebuilding your life and preventing the cycle of trauma from repeating. Healing is not just about moving on—it’s about restoring your heart, mind, and soul through God’s grace.
The Bible reminds us in Psalm 147:3, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” God desires to heal and restore us completely, but it requires intentional effort and faith.
5 Steps to Heal After Breaking Free from Trauma Bonds
1. Embracing Emotional Healing
Leaving a trauma bond can bring a mix of emotions—relief, grief, anger, and confusion. Healing begins when you allow yourself to process these emotions rather than suppress them.
Action Step: Take time to acknowledge and express your feelings through journaling, therapy, or talking with a trusted mentor. Avoid rushing into new relationships until you’ve fully processed your past. I’d recommend the following:
- For relationships that lasted less than a year, wait the same number of months you spent in that relationship. e.g. take out 6 months to heal and rediscover your self and identity if Christ before moving into another romantic relationship.
- For relationships that lasted more than a year, wait at least one year to heal and recover. e.g. take at least 1 full year out if you spent 1 or more than a year in a previous toxic relationship.
Biblical Perspective: Ecclesiastes 3:1,4 tells us, “There is a time for everything… a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Give yourself grace as you move through the healing process.
2. Strengthening Your Spiritual Foundation
Healing from trauma bonds is not just emotional—it is deeply spiritual. When we’ve been wounded in toxic relationships, we may struggle with trust, identity, and faith. Reconnecting with God brings peace and renewal.
Action Step: Spend intentional time in prayer, worship, and Bible study. Meditate on scriptures that affirm your worth and remind you of God’s love.
Biblical Perspective: Isaiah 40:31 reminds us, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Renew your strength in God’s presence.
3. Setting and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
Healing requires establishing firm boundaries to protect your emotional and spiritual well-being. This means learning to say no, cutting ties with toxic influences, and surrounding yourself with supportive, godly relationships.
Action Step: Identify people and situations that drain your energy or trigger past wounds. Set clear boundaries and enforce them with love and confidence.
Biblical Perspective: Proverbs 4:23 teaches us, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Healthy boundaries are a way of guarding your heart and protecting your peace.
4. Nurturing Your Self-Worth in Christ
Trauma bonds often leave individuals feeling unworthy, unloved, and insecure. True healing happens when you rediscover your identity in Christ and recognize that your worth is not defined by past pain.
Action Step: Replace negative self-talk with affirmations from God’s Word. Speak life over yourself and reject the lies of the enemy.
Biblical Perspective: Psalm 139:14 declares, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Your worth is found in how God sees you, not in your past relationships.
5. Seeking Community and Support
Healing is not meant to be done in isolation. Surrounding yourself with a Christ-centered community can provide encouragement, wisdom, and accountability.
Action Step: Join a small group, seek Christian counseling, or find a mentor who can walk alongside you in your healing journey.
Biblical Perspective: Galatians 6:2 reminds us, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Community plays a vital role in emotional and spiritual restoration.
Conclusion
Healing after a trauma bond is a journey that requires emotional recovery, spiritual renewal, boundary-setting, and rediscovering self-worth in Christ. By leaning on God’s strength, surrounding yourself with support, and maintaining healthy boundaries, you can step into the abundant life He has for you.
I encourage you to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments. Have you found healing after breaking free from a trauma bond? What biblical truths have helped you in your journey? Your testimony can encourage others who are seeking healing.
Let’s hold on to Jeremiah 30:17, “But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds, declares the Lord.” God is in the business of restoration, and He desires complete healing for you.
Watch the Summary Here on YouTube.
Final Thoughts & Call to Action
Let us hold onto the truth found in Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Together, through faith and understanding, we can break free from trauma bonds and walk in the fullness of God’s love.
