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How to Leave a Narcissistic Relationship Safely

by Susan Adeyemi

Narcissistic Abuse Series

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REVEALING GOD’S HEART FOR RELATIONSHIPS

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By Susan Adeyemi, Counsellor, & Author

How to Leave a Narcissistic Relationship Safely

What does Narcissistic Abuse look like in Relationships?

Leaving a narcissistic relationship is not a single decision, it’s a carefully planned process. Safety is always the priority. Before you go, begin preparing quietly. Gather important documents, set aside emergency funds, and identify safe people you can reach out to for support.

When narcissists sense you’re detaching, they may attempt to pull you back in with promises, apologies, or affection. This isn’t love; it’s control disguised as change.

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Emotionally, prepare yourself for pushback. When narcissists sense you’re detaching, they may attempt to pull you back in with promises, apologies, or affection. This isn’t love; it’s control disguised as change. Stay anchored in the truth of your experience, and don’t engage in endless explanations or arguments.

After leaving, expect a wave of complex emotions; grief, guilt, confusion, and even longing. Freedom can feel disorienting before it feels peaceful. Give yourself time. Healing is not linear, but every boundary you set and every step you take away from toxicity is an act of courage.

Leaving doesn’t make you selfish; it makes you brave.

Counsellor’s Corner

If you’re planning your exit or have already left, write one word in your safe space journal, that describes where you are in your healing journey.

  • Reflect on each part of the article by writing in your journal.
  • Feel free to share which part resonates most with you in the comments below.
  • Download a copy of “Managing Negative Emotions Guide”
  • Join my community to engage in prayers and accountability.

Let’s start a conversation in the comments about how we heal from these invisible wounds. You can also book a free 30 minutes consultation with me (below) to unpack negative thinking patterns.

Share your story in the comments and with others. Your experience can bring light and encouragement to someone else navigating the same struggle. If this post helped you, share it with a friend who may be silently battling fear

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About the Author
Susan is a professional who works in business and organisational restructuring. However, over the past 6 years, she’s felt a heavy ministerial burden to reach the wounded through God’s word. After being in an abusive relationship, she sought the face of the Lord concerning how to repurpose her pain for the benefit of God’s kingdom. She believes she has been called into a unique position to reach out to people, particularly those who find themselves in wrong relationships. She wants you to know that God hears your prayers. He wants to encourage you to not give up or give in. He wants to heal the brokenhearted and restore you to your rightful place. He wants to bind up your wounds and strengthen you in His love and set you free. To keep up, follow my social media pages. Feel free to contact me below and sign up for our weekly letters.

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