Narcissistic Abuse Series
By Susan Adeyemi, Counsellor, & Author
What are the signs of Narcissistic Abuse?
Recognising narcissistic behaviour is essential for breaking free from its grip. Narcissists thrive on control, admiration, and power. They seek to dominate conversations, diminish your emotions, and subtly reframe every interaction to serve their self-image. What makes this so insidious is the charm they use to disguise their control as care.
You might find yourself constantly apologising or second-guessing your words. You may walk on eggshells to avoid triggering their anger or withdrawal. Gaslighting, where your experiences are denied until you question your own sanity, is one of their most powerful tools. It leaves you unsure of what’s real and who you can trust, including yourself.
The moment you can name what’s happening, you reclaim part of your power.
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Narcissists often present two faces: one that the world admires and another that you experience in private. In public, they may appear generous, attentive, or even spiritual. In private, they’re cold, dismissive, or cruel. This inconsistency keeps victims emotionally trapped, hoping that the public version will reappear at home.
The moment you can name what’s happening, you reclaim part of your power. Awareness doesn’t fix everything overnight, but it gives you the clarity needed to make safer, stronger choices.
Counsellor’s Corner
As we continue this series, I invite you to reflect:
1) Have you ever questioned if what you experienced was narcissistic abuse?
2) Which signs of narcissistic behaviour stood out to you most?
- Reflect on each part by writing in your journal.
- Feel free to share which part resonates most with you in the comments below.
- Download a copy of “Managing Negative Emotions Guide”
- Join my community to engage in prayers and accountability.
You can also book a free 30 minutes consultation with me (below) to unpack negative thinking patterns.
Share your story in the comments and with others. Your experience can bring light and encouragement to someone else navigating the same struggle. If this post helped you, share it with a friend who may be silently battling fear
