Tips for Peaceful Holiday Gatherings with Family

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REVEALING GOD’S HEART FOR RELATIONSHIPS

Susan Adeyemi

Susan is a professional who works in business and organisational restructuring. However, over the past 6 years, she’s felt a heavy ministerial burden to reach the wounded through God’s word. After being in an abusive relationship, she sought the face of the Lord concerning how to repurpose her pain for the benefit of God’s kingdom. She believes she has been called into a unique position to reach out to people, particularly those who find themselves in wrong relationships. She wants you to know that God hears your prayers. He wants to encourage you to not give up or give in. He wants to heal the brokenhearted and restore you to your rightful place. He wants to bind up your wounds and strengthen you in His love and set you free. To keep up, follow my social media pages. Feel free to contact me below and sign up for our weekly letters.

By Susan Adeyemi, Counsellor, & Author

How To Set Boundaries At Awkward Family Gatherings with Toxic Family Members

Christmas gatherings can be beautiful, but also deeply challenging when toxic family dynamics are present. Boundaries are essential to protecting your emotional and spiritual well-being. Decide what you can and cannot handle before the gathering. Plan your arrival, your exit, and your conversational boundaries. You’re allowed to say less, stay briefly, or take breaks if needed.

Prepare gentle phrases like, “I’d prefer not to discuss that,” or “Let’s change the subject.” Bring someone supportive if you can. Remember, Jesus cares about your heart, your safety, and your peace. You do not owe anyone unlimited emotional access simply because they are family. This Christmas, choose peace, choose safety, and choose yourself.

Reflection & Next Steps

Write one word that describes what you want to feel this Christmas—“peace,” “strength,” “freedom,” “clarity,” or “safety.” Reflect on which boundary feels most necessary for you this holiday season.

• Feel free to share which part resonates most in the comments below.
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